While you wait..

Dear (Wifey) Reader, 

I wouldn’t call myself a pro writer, but here I am, excited that you’re reading this! I’m truly hoping something in my words strikes a chord with you. I’ve been told that LETTERS… isn’t exactly a top trending blog (can we call it that?), which honestly makes me even more excited to let my pen flow freely.

First off, congrats on being a wife! Not everyone is, and I genuinely hope those who aren’t find a reason to love and be loved soon. Now, some people might say, “What’s the big deal about being a wife?” Well, that’s for you to answer, because for me, it’s a huge deal. Love itself is a big deal. Sure, love has its fair share of ups and downs, and I dare say sometimes it’s more temporary than we’d like to admit. But if you wait it out… there’s beauty on the other side. And hey, if you disagree, drop a comment—I’m curious to hear your thoughts!

Now, let’s get into this thing called Marriage. Spoiler alert: it doesn’t come with a flashing warning label telling you what you’re going to face. But it does come with manuals—yes, they exist! The problem? Just like you ignore the manual for your TV or fridge, you’ve probably skipped right past the marriage manual too. All the “stuff” you’re going through? That was likely on page six, but we were all too busy being overwhelmed to flip that far!

But listen, if you’re ready to dust off that manual and take a peek, let me share a few steps I’ve taken on this wild journey.

So, while you’re waiting for things to magically get better (news flash: they won’t on their own)…

Step 1: Take a Mental Step Back

By mental, I don’t mean booking a flight to a tropical island (though if you do, take me with you!). I mean mentally stepping out of the situation to focus on you. Here’s the thing—you can’t love well or fight for your marriage if you’re running on empty. Figure out what brings you joy and makes you feel alive. Is it dancing? Spending time with friends? Quiet moments with God? Whatever it is, do that. Trust me, when you prioritize your well-being, it benefits you, your relationship, and your family in the long run.

Step 2: Set Some Boundaries

Now, don’t panic! I’m not talking about locking your husband out of the house (unless his socks are still on the floor). Setting boundaries simply means establishing what you need to feel safe and respected. And yes, communication is key here. For example, I once told my husband, “If you’ve got nothing positive to say, zip it!” Surprisingly, it worked! But remember, how you say things is just as important as what you say.

I’ve got loads more to share, but word count limits are real. Let’s just say there’s a part two in the works, and I can’t wait to dive deeper next time! Meanwhile, I want to hear from you—what page of the “marriage manual” are you stuck on? Share your thoughts below, and let’s keep this conversation going.

Sincerely 

From a Wife next Door 

Mrs H