Binge-Watching Breakups? No Wonder Love Feels Like a Scam!

Let me tell you something real, life is full of stories. Some people carry stories so dark and terrifying you'd wonder how they even managed to survive. Seriously, if their lives were a movie, you'd be hiding under your blanket with the lights on! Then there are others whose stories are so good, so perfect, you almost want to check if they were born on another planet. You know those ones right? they make you wonder, "Is this even real?"

Now, here's my question for you: Which of these stories do you naturally lean toward? Have you caught yourself endlessly scrolling through social media, soaking up all those juicy trending stories, the ones so sweet they make your teeth hurt or so dramatic they make you want to throw your phone across the room? Let me tell you something important: what you constantly feed your mind is quietly shaping who you're becoming. No wonder it feels like things aren't quite clicking for you.

Why are you always comparing and contrasting, measuring your life against someone else's highlight reel? Why do good stories seem so unbelievable to you? Could it be because you've convinced yourself that nothing good can come out of marriage? Who told you that? Where did that idea even come from? Have you personally surveyed every married couple on earth to reach that conclusion? Probably not. Truth is, bad stories make the headlines, but good stories? They quietly live on, unnoticed.

Today, I want you to decide to think differently to believe differently.

Let me share a little about my own journey. When I first got married, Nollywood was my primary teacher about marriage. Yep, those movies with the dramatic music and wicked mother-in-laws! You see, I came from a divorced home. My mom, bless her heart, was always plotting ways to get back at my dad and used us kids as her little pawns. My dad? Let's just say he was... well, an embarrassment. I grew up in that mess, never really learning anything better about marriage.

But everything changed when I moved to a new environment. Esther my nosy neighbor, the most patient woman I have ever met. One day, during one of our many chats, I noticed she kept smiling at every text she received. Curious (and yes, a bit nosy myself), I asked, "Who keeps making you smile like that?" She casually replied, "Oh, that's Ronald, my husband."

Hold up. Husband? Smiling after 11 years of marriage? I shrugged it off at first, but let me tell you, this woman changed everything for me. Watching her, learning from her, it took years, but slowly, I became a better person. I made a decision: I would no longer listen to or watch anything negative about marriage. I chose to believe that good marriages exist, and they do.

So, here's my challenge to you: Decide today to believe that good things can happen for you. Good marriages, good families, good stories, they're out there. But first, you've got to believe they exist.

Nice writing

Yoyo